30 Days – Day 1 – Something I Hate About Myself

I’ve decided to participate in the ‘30 Days of Truth‘ project I’ve seen on other blogs.  Now, that said, I don’t know if I will do it every single day, but I’d like to try to tackle each of the 30 topics.  I think it might help me commit to posting every single day, since I’m also taking part in The Daily Post project. 

Day 01 -> Something you hate about yourself.

I’d like to think I don’t “hate” anything about myself, but I’m not that naïve either.  Most people would probably think this would be the easiest topic to write about, since we’re all conditioned by society and the media to dislike ourselves as we are.  But, I must confess, I’m having a bit of trouble pinpointing something I truly detest about myself.  There are a lot of things I wish to improve, but that doesn’t really seem to be the point.  So, I’ll think on it and give it a try.

… … …

One thing I extremely dislike (hate?) about myself would have to be my failure to properly assert myself with people in potentially awkward situations.  I’ll provide a couple of specific examples in a moment.  I have no problem asserting myself with people I’m close to – but I’m sure that’s true of most people – but for some reason, when I feel put on the spot, sometimes I go for the easy way out of the situation, which really fucking pisses me off at myself, every time. 

Example 1 – A couple of years ago, a woman at work asked me if I was “a believer.”  As in, a believer in Jesus and such.  Now, let me preface the rest of this by saying at the time, I still considered myself “spiritual” but carried a general dislike of organized religion of any stripe.  I paused for a few seconds, and then answered, “Yes…”  She broke a broad smile and replied that she “thought so.”  Now, this woman seems very sweet, and while I don’t know her reasoning for assuming such of me, I think it came from a positive place.  But I walked away from the situation a little pissed at myself, and now that I think of it, a little pissed at her too. 

For one thing, the real answer (at the time) was more of a “(Well) yes…but not the way you think!” *wink wink nudge nudge*  Then I thought, fuck that, I don’t need to divulge such a thing to someone I hardly even know in passing, so who cares what I told her? 

But, looking back, I now think, “Who was she to ask me something like that?”  That’s the type of conversation I would have with someone I know & trust (add link here to coming out post). 

Example 2 – Flash back to the 2008 Democratic Presidential primaries, between Hillary Clinton and Barack Obama. 

I was always a Clinton supporter, although I liked Obama’s message of change, and I was one of the many inspired and awed by the enthusiasm surrounding him.  A woman at work stopped by my desk and asked me who I had voted for.  Again, people and their intrusive questions.  It’s a woman I get along with very well. 

I don’t know how to type this without it seeming like something it isn’t, so I’ll just say it.  She’s black.  I guess I sensed some weirdness would ensue, and as a rule I don’t generally discuss things like religion or politics at work.  I paused and said “Obama.”  She smiled and was visibly pleased by this, and went on her way. 

LAME.  “Fucking loser,” I thought (about myself).  This is not something I’m proud to admit, here or otherwise, but the prospect of the first black president came with some weirdness around it, and I wasn’t immune.  I was very excited at the fact that we would actually get to choose between the first female president or the first black president.  What an advance in our society – FINALLY. 

At the same time, there was this underlying feeling that ALL.BLACK.PEOPLE.EVERYWHERE were going to vote for Obama, and…I don’t know…maybe I didn’t want to come off as ‘whitey’ voting for Clinton.  In any case, I was happy (at the time) that Obama got the nomination if Clinton couldn’t.  Hell, I’d vote for Pedobear over McCain/Palin.  But why couldn’t I have just said, “I don’t usually discuss things like that – voting is a personal thing for me” or something equally not-really-untrue. 

Ugh.  I guess this ’30 Days of Truth’ challenge comes with some REAL TALK.  Oh well, owning up to our shortcomings is freeing, because it allows us to expose more of the truth of who and what we are.  While I think this can partially be attributed to my general social awkwardness and social anxiety, it’s also something I’d like to work on.

What do you hate about yourself, and why?

If you’d like to take part in the challenge, here’s one of a bajillion blogs with the complete 30 day topics list.

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3 thoughts on “30 Days – Day 1 – Something I Hate About Myself

  1. I fall victim of the social awkwardness too at times, except I do it with my family sometimes as well. I hate that.

    I would never ask someone who they voted for! I think that’s something that’s personal! Same thing with religion, but I’ve been asked both as well. And shhh don’t tell but I was still Christian during the last election and my dumbass did vote for Mcain/Palin(hangs head in shame.)

    I might have to hop on board with the “30 days of truth thing” it looks interesting!

  2. Interesting thoughts, and I’m sure you won’t find yourself alone in situations like this. I wish I could stand up for myself more too, especially when I’m put on the spot to answer an either/or question that could either offend the questioner or piss me off for backing out of being honest because I didn’t want to piss them off!

    The 30 day thing looks like it’s a good challenge. I might try it myself too as part of the postaday2011 campaign.

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